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Calling all Mothers


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Read Muriella’s Corner Newsletter here with good sentiments for Mom

I remember my mother’s prayers and they have always followed me. They have clung to me all my life. ~Abraham Lincoln

Some mothers are kissing mothers and some are scolding mothers, but it is love just the same, and most mothers kiss and scold together. ~Pearl S. Buck

The real religion of the world comes from women much more than from men – from mothers most of all, who carry the key of our souls in their bosoms. ~Oliver Wendell Holmes

The heart of a mother is a deep abyss at the bottom of which you will always find forgiveness. ~Honoré de Balzac

All women become like their mothers. That is their tragedy. No man does. That’s his. ~Oscar Wilde, The Importance of Being Earnest, 1895

He is a poor son whose sonship does not make him desire to serve all men’s mothers. ~Harry Emerson Fosdick

Thou art thy mother’s glass, and she in thee
Calls back the lovely April of her prime.
~William Shakespeare

An ounce of mother is worth a pound of clergy. ~Spanish Proverb

She never quite leaves her children at home, even when she doesn’t take them along. ~Margaret Culkin Banning

If evolution really works, how come mothers only have two hands? ~Milton Berle

Mothers are fonder than fathers of their children because they are more certain they are their own. ~Aristotle

Women are aristocrats, and it is always the mother who makes us feel that we belong to the better sort. ~John Lancaster Spalding

Motherhood has a very humanizing effect. Everything gets reduced to essentials. ~Meryl Streep

The sweetest sounds to mortals given
Are heard in Mother, Home, and Heaven.
~William Goldsmith Brown

What are Raphael’s Madonnas but the shadow of a mother’s love, fixed in permanent outline forever? ~Thomas Wentworth Higginson

My mom is a neverending song in my heart of comfort, happiness, and being. I may sometimes forget the words but I always remember the tune. ~Graycie Harmon

The formative period for building character for eternity is in the nursery. The mother is queen of that realm and sways a scepter more potent than that of kings or priests. ~Author Unknown

Mother love is the fuel that enables a normal human being to do the impossible. ~Marion C. Garretty, quoted in A Little Spoonful of Chicken Soup for the Mother’s Soul

A mother is the truest friend we have, when trials heavy and sudden, fall upon us; when adversity takes the place of prosperity; when friends who rejoice with us in our sunshine desert us; when trouble thickens around us, still will she cling to us, and endeavor by her kind precepts and counsels to dissipate the clouds of darkness, and cause peace to return to our hearts. ~Washington Irving

Any mother could perform the jobs of several air traffic controllers with ease. ~Lisa Alther

A mother’s arms are made of tenderness and children sleep soundly in them. ~Victor Hugo

Now, as always, the most automated appliance in a household is the mother. ~Beverly Jones

That best academy, a mother’s knee. ~James Russell Lowell

The only mothers it is safe to forget on Mother’s Day are the good ones. ~Mignon McLaughlin, The Neurotic’s Notebook, 1960

Hundreds of dewdrops to greet the dawn,
Hundreds of bees in the purple clover,
Hundreds of butterflies on the lawn,
But only one mother the wide world over.
~George Cooper

A mother’s happiness is like a beacon, lighting up the future but reflected also on the past in the guise of fond memories. ~Honoré de Balzac

A father may turn his back on his child, brothers and sisters may become inveterate enemies, husbands may desert their wives, wives their husbands. But a mother’s love endures through all. ~Washington Irving

My mother is a poem
I’ll never be able to write,
though everything I write
is a poem to my mother.
~Sharon Doubiago

Grown don’t mean nothing to a mother. A child is a child. They get bigger, older, but grown? What’s that suppose to mean? In my heart it don’t mean a thing. ~Toni Morrison, Beloved, 1987

With what price we pay for the glory of motherhood. ~Isadora Duncan

One good mother is worth a hundred schoolmasters. ~George Herbert

Mother’s love is peace. It need not be acquired, it need not be deserved. ~Erich Fromm

Who ran to help me when I fell,
And would some pretty story tell,
Or kiss the place to make it well?
My mother.
~Ann Taylor

Mother – that was the bank where we deposited all our hurts and worries. ~T. DeWitt Talmage

The precursor of the mirror is the mother’s face. ~D.W. Winnicott, Playing and Reality, 1971

Mother is the name for God in the lips and hearts of little children. ~William Makepeace Thackeray

A daughter is a mother’s gender partner, her closest ally in the family confederacy, an extension of her self. And mothers are their daughters’ role model, their biological and emotional road map, the arbiter of all their relationships. ~Victoria Secunda

Mother’s love grows by giving. ~Charles Lamb

I miss thee, my Mother! Thy image is still
The deepest impressed on my heart.
~Eliza Cook

The tie which links mother and child is of such pure and immaculate strength as to be never violated. ~Washington Irving

I cannot forget my mother. [S]he is my bridge. When I needed to get across, she steadied herself long enough for me to run across safely. ~Renita Weems

A little girl, asked where her home was, replied, “where mother is.” ~Keith L. Brooks

Youth fades; love droops; the leaves of friendship fall; A mother’s secret hope outlives them all. ~Oliver Wendell Holmes

Most of all the other beautiful things in life come by twos and threes, by dozens and hundreds. Plenty of roses, stars, sunsets, rainbows, brothers and sisters, aunts and cousins, comrades and friends – but only one mother in the whole world. ~Kate Douglas Wiggin

If I was damned of body and soul,
I know whose prayers would make me whole,
Mother o’ mine, O mother o’mine.
~Rudyard Kipling

Whatever else is unsure in this stinking dunghill of a world a mother’s love is not. ~James Joyce

My mother had a slender, small body, but a large heart – a heart so large that everybody’s joys found welcome in it, and hospitable accommodation. ~Mark Twain

It’s not easy being a mother. If it were easy, fathers would do it. ~From the television show The Golden Girls

The mother’s heart is the child’s school-room. ~Henry Ward Beecher

Women know
The way to rear up children (to be just)
They know a simple, merry, tender knack
Of tying sashes, fitting baby shoes,
And stringing pretty words that make no sense,
And kissing full sense into empty words.
~Elizabeth Barrett Browning

The desolation and terror of, for the first time, realizing that the mother can lose you, or you her, and your own abysmal loneliness and helplessness without her. ~Francis Thompson

My mom is literally a part of me. You can’t say that about many people except relatives, and organ donors. ~Carrie Latet

Every beetle is a gazelle in the eyes of its mother. ~Moorish Proverb

All that I am or ever hope to be, I owe to my angel Mother. ~Abraham Lincoln

No painter’s brush, nor poet’s pen
In justice to her fame
Has ever reached half high enough
To write a mother’s name.
~Author Unknown

Women who miscalculate are called mothers. ~Abigail Van Buren

A man’s work is from sun to sun, but a mother’s work is never done. ~Author Unknown

One of the very few reasons I had any respect for my mother when I was thirteen was because she would reach into the sink with her bare hands – bare hands – and pick up that lethal gunk and drop it into the garbage. To top that, I saw her reach into the wet garbage bag and fish around in there looking for a lost teaspoon. Bare hands – a kind of mad courage. ~Robert Fulghum

One lamp – thy mother’s love – amid the stars
Shall lift its pure flame changeless, and before
The throne of God, burn through eternity –
Holy – as it was lit and lent thee here.
~Nathaniel Parker Willis

No one in the world can take the place of your mother. Right or wrong, from her viewpoint you are always right. She may scold you for little things, but never for the big ones. ~Harry Truman

God could not be everywhere, so he created mothers. ~Jewish Proverb

A man loves his sweetheart the most, his wife the best, but his mother the longest. ~Irish Proverb

Mums for Malaria Movement

Mums for Malaria

Mums for Malaria

“If you would be happy for a lifetime, grow Chrysanthemums.” (a Chinese philosopher)

Planting chrysanthemums good for malaria, for the environment/planet, good for bringing in $$$ to local communities…

Issues of sustainability are critical in any project if we want really that the project has a longterm viability. Malaria No More is doing great work in spreading awareness about malaria and doing something about it by providing bednets.

While following the tweeters and mosquito bednets, I began to have flash backs to my days in the UN working in water and sanitation, organizing with communities in ridding their environment of puddles, old tires with stagnant water, and other places of mosquito breeding. Too much water can create too many disease problems.

Bednets are very important and every effort to rid the earth of this deadly scourge should be applauded. We also need to examine ways of making the efforts sustainable, for, as an old man told me when we were talking about using bednets – we need to have beds first…

In answer to the Bill Gates Foundation in which they were looking for ideas to Create New Tools to Accelerate the Eradication of Malaria. I submitted the idea of Growing Chrysanthemums to help accelerate the eradication of Malaria.

Of note, bednets are currently treated with either Permethrin & Pyrethrum Insecticides (One is a natural insecticide the other is syntheti)

Pyrethrum, natural pyrethrum or “insect powder” a natural insecticide made from the flowers of certain species of chrysanthemum. It is a mixture of several different compounds called pyrethrins and cinerins. Originally pyrethrum was made by grinding dried chrysanthemum flowers into a powder.

Today, pyrethrum is extracted from chrysanthemum plant material with solvents. Pyrethrum is still widely used today in household insect sprays where it is usually combined with another chemical “synergist” called piperonyl butoxide (PBO). PBO helps pyrethrum by enhancing its toxicity in insects. (source livingwithbugs)

The Rockefeller Foundation began using pyrethrum sprays experimentally in India to great
success and this method of malaria control was recognised as enormously valuable. The use
of pyrethrum was then expanded to Assam by Dr. D. K. Viswanathan, the well known Indian malariologist in 1942.

Beginning Earth Day 2009 and beyond we should start  a movement on the planting of chrysanthemums and the extracting of the inherent herbicide pyrethrum to treat the bednets, thus beautifying the environment, generating income, and treating bednets/malaria… MUMS FOR MALARIA

For every effort there has to be some thought to the sustainability of the effort, to what happens when the source dries up. Let us create a Mums for Malaria Movement

Sources: living with bugs, Glasgow submission to Gates Foundation

Sleep and the Stimulus

The Bail Out and my zzzzzzzzzzzzzsss

Citigroup bailout: Citigroup lives on, the world can sleep.
Citigroup lives to fight another day. That’s the good news in the government’s mega bailout. The provision of yet more government capital – plus a guarantee for a $306bn “bad bank” – should do the trick of restoring confidence. That’s important not just for Citi, whose share price fell by a fearsome 60% last week, but for all financial markets.

Source The Telegraph, UK…

How is your sleep being affected by all the stimulae (stimuluses??) in the environment – the bail outs, the budget, the banking challenges, AIG, Made-Off, Sir Sleeze, the bleat of the journalists and the politicians, blahblahblah…

We thought we’d remind you of the necessity of sleep and of paying attention to your zzzzzzzzzzzzzs – very important for your brain and health.

PS – Before you sleep, however, watch this video – two people who can keep you up at night for different reasons…

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Update on Last Butt Award for President Obama

President-Elect and First Family to receive First Annual Award for his efforts to stop smoking. This prestigious award, created by famous French artist/painter, Philippe Valy, will be bestowed upon President Elect Barack Obama at a date to be announced.

It will be the First Annual Last Butt Awards to be given to selected public officials and celebrities to reward them for making giant efforts to stop smoking as they grapple with the challenges of their office or industry.

The Poet-in-Residence of the Last Butt Society, Emgee, has written a poem depicting the then Senator Obama’s struggles with smoking during the campaign and what could be his sentiments upon receiving the Award. Since the offer in December and the publication of the poem “Ode to the Wagon”, the poet in residence has updated the poem here.

Read Press Release Here

From Your Valentine

The Legend of Valentines Day – the New St Valentine- Obama Love

Over time, Valentines Day has become blended with two other ancient Roman holidays, Lupercalis and Juno, both associated with romance; however, Saint Valentines life exemplifies a broader definition of love. The Roman Catholic Church recognizes 8 different saints named Valentine but the most famous one lived in Rome during the reign of Claudius II, around the year 270 AD.

Legend has it that Claudius II outlawed marriage as a way to encourage men to join his army. Valentine refused to obey this law and was arrested for secretly performing weddings for young couples. While in prison, Valentines kindness and positive attitude helped convert the jailer and his wife to Christianity.

According to the legend, Valentine also befriended the jailer’s blind daughter, often writing her notes of encouragement and praying for her. Word of Valentines kindness and compassion reached Claudius II. He offered to release Valentine if the priest would renounce his religion and worship the Roman gods. Valentine not only refused, but he tried to convert Claudius II to Christianity. Claudius II rejected this attempt and condemned Valentine to death.

As the legend goes, Valentines prayers were answered, and the jailer’s daughter was healed. On the eve of his execution, Valentine wrote a note assuring this young girl that she was not responsible for his death. He signed the note “from your Valentine.”

As you can see, Valentines story represents many aspects of love. It was his love for God and his commitment to his values that caused Valentine to disobey the law. Valentines respect for romantic love is also included in his disobedience. His positive and loving attitude, even in the midst of crisis, affected the views of others including the jailer and Claudius himself. He demonstrated love for humanity through his kindness to the jailer’s blind daughter.

Many around the world are believing that President Obama possesses an enormous quantity of love and that this characteristic, along with respect, tolerance, will be the boon,or bane, of his Presidency.

Move over St Valentine, here comes Obama!

Quotes on love

Albert Einstein:

Gravitation is not responsible for people falling in love.

How on earth are you ever going to explain in terms of chemistry and physics so important a biological phenomenon as first love?

Alfred Tennyson:

I hold it true, whate’er befall;
I feel it, when I sorrow most;
‘Tis better to have loved and lost
Than never to have loved at all.

Allan K. Chalmers:

The Grand essentials of happiness are: something to do, something to love, and something to hope for.

Ambrose Bierce:

Love: a temporary insanity, curable by marriage?????

Amy Bloom:

Love at first sight is easy to understand; it’s when two people have been looking at each other for a lifetime that it becomes a miracle.

Amy Tan:

I am like a falling star who has finally found her place next to another in a lovely constellation, where we will sparkle in the heavens forever.

Anais Nin:

Love never dies a natural death. It dies because we don’t know how to replenish its source. It dies of blindness and errors and betrayals. It dies of illness and wounds; it dies of weariness, of witherings, of tarnishings.

Ann Landers:

If you have love in your life it can make up for a great many things you lack. If you don’t have it, no matter what else there is, it’s not enough.

Anne Morrow Lindbergh:

Him that I love, I wish to be free — even from me.

Antoine de Saint-Exupery:

Love does not consist of gazing at each other, but in looking together in the same direction.

Barbara De Angelis:

Love is a choice you make from moment to moment.

Barbara De Angelis:

Love and kindness are never wasted. They always make a difference. They bless the one who receives them, and they bless you, the giver.

Bayard Rustin:

When I say I love Eastland, it sounds preposterous — a man who brutalizes people. But you love him or you wouldn’t be here. You’re going to Mississippi to create social change — and you love Eastland in your desire to create conditions which will redeem his children. Loving your enemy is manifest in putting your arms not around the man but around the social situation, to take power from those who misuse it — at which point they can become human too.

Bayard Taylor:

I love thee, I love but thee
With a love that shall not die
Till the sun grows cold,
And the stars grow old…

Bertrand Russell:

Three passions have governed my life:
The longings for love, the search for knowledge,
And unbearable pity for the suffering of [humankind].

Love brings ecstasy and relieves loneliness.
In the union of love I have seen
In a mystic miniature the prefiguring vision
Of the heavens that saints and poets have imagined.

With equal passion I have sought knowledge.
I have wished to understand the hearts of [people].
I have wished to know why the stars shine.

Love and knowledge led upwards to the heavens,
But always pity brought me back to earth;
Cries of pain reverberated in my heart
Of children in famine, of victims tortured
And of old people left helpless.
I long to alleviate the evil, but I cannot,
And I too suffer.

This has been my life; I found it worth living.



Love is patient, love is kind.
It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.
It is not rude, it is not self-seeking.
It is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.
Love does not delight in evil, but rejoices with the truth.
It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
Love never fails.
I Corinthians 13:4-8

Blaise Pascal:

The heart has its reasons which reason knows not of.

C.S. Lewis:

Why love if losing hurts so much? We love to know that we are not alone.

Carl Jung:

Where love rules, there is no will to power; and where power predominates, there love is lacking. The one is the shadow of the other.

Carter Heyward:

Love, like truth and beauty, is concrete. Love is not fundamentally a sweet feeling; not, at heart, a matter of sentiment, attachment, or being “drawn toward.” Love is active, effective, a matter of making reciprocal and mutually beneficial relation with one’s friends and enemies.

E.M. Forster:

Only connect! That was the whole of her sermon. Only connect the prose and the passion, and both will be exalted, and human love will be seen at its height. Live in fragments no longer. Only connect…


For everything there is a season,
And a time for every matter under heaven:
A time to be born, and a time to die;
A time to plant, and a time to pluck up what is planted;
A time to kill, and a time to heal;
A time to break down, and a time to build up;
A time to weep, and a time to laugh;
A time to mourn, and a time to dance;
A time to throw away stones, and a time to gather stones together;
A time to embrace, And a time to refrain from embracing;
A time to seek, and a time to lose;
A time to keep, and a time to throw away;
A time to tear, and a time to sew;
A time to keep silence, and a time to speak;
A time to love, and a time to hate,
A time for war, and a time for peace.

Ecclesiastes 3:1-8

Edna St. Vincent Millay:

Life is a quest and love a quarrel …

Edna St. Vincent Millay:

I love humanity but I hate people.

Elbert Hubbard:

The love we give away is the only love we keep.

Elie Wiesel:

The opposite of love is not hate, it’s indifference.
The opposite of art is not ugliness, it’s indifference.
The opposite of faith is not heresy, it’s indifference.
And the opposite of life is not death, it’s indifference.

(Oct. 1986)

Elie Wiesel:

Friendship marks a life even more deeply than love. Love risks degenerating into obsession, friendship is never anything but sharing.

Elizabeth Barret Browning:

Whoso loves, believes the impossible.

Ella Wheeler Wilcox:

All love that has not friendship for its base,
Is like a mansion built upon the sand.

Emily Dickinson:

That Love is all there is,
Is all we know of Love.

Emily Dickinson:

Love—is anterior to Life—
Posterior—to Death—
Initial of Creation, and
The Exponent of Earth—

Emily Dickinson:

Who has not found the heaven below
Will fail of it above.
God’s residence is next to min,
His furniture is love.

Emma Goldman:

Free love? As if love is anything but free! Man has bought brains, but all the millions in the world have failed to buy love. Man has subdued bodies, but all the power on earth has been unable to subdue love. Man has conquered whole nations, but all his armies could not conquer love. Man has chained and fettered the spirit, but he has been utterly helpless before love. High on a throne, with all the splendor and pomp his gold can command, man is yet poor and desolate, if love passes him by. And if it stays, the poorest hovel is radiant with warmth, with life and color. Thus love has the magic power to make of a beggar a king. Yes, love is free; it can dwell in no other atmosphere.

Erich Fromm:

Infantile love follows the principle: “I love because I am loved.”
Mature love follows the principle: “I am loved because I love.”
Immature love says: “I love you because I need you.”
Mature love says: “I need you because I love you.”

Ernest Becker:

When we understand that man is the only animal who must create meaning, who must open a wedge into neutral nature, we already understand the essence of love. Love is the problem of an animal who must find life, create a dialogue with nature in order to experience his own being.


He is not a lover who does not love forever.

Felix Adler:

Love is the expansion of two natures in such fashion that each include the other, each is enriched by the other.

Francis David:

We need not think alike to love alike.

Franklin P. Jones:

Love doesn’t make the world go ’round; love is what makes the ride worthwhile.

Friedrich Nietzsche:

It is not a lack of love, but a lack of friendship that makes unhappy marriages.

Georg C. Lichtenberg:

Love is blind, but marriage restores its sight.

George MacDonald:

To be trusted is a greater compliment than to be loved.

George Sand:

There is only one happiness in life, to love and be loved.

George Santayana:

Love is only half the illusion; the lover, but not his love, is deceived.

The Life of Reason, 1905-1906


To be loved for what one is, is the greatest exception. The great majority love in others only what they lend him, their own selves, their version of him.

H. L. Mencken:

To be in love is merely to be in a state of perceptual anesthesia — to mistake an ordinary young man for a Greek god or an ordinary young woman for a goddess.

Prejudices, 1919

HH the Dalai Lama:

Responsibility does not only lie with the leaders of our countries or with those who have been appointed or elected to do a particular job. It lies with each of us individually. Peace, for example, starts within each one of us. When we have inner peace, we can be at peace with those around us.

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HH the Dalai Lama:

When we feel love and kindness toward others, it not only makes others feel loved and cared for, but it helps us also to develop inner happiness and peace.

Han Suyin [Elizabeth Comber]:

…love from one being to another can only be that two solitudes come nearer, recognize and protect and comfort each other.

b. 1917 Chinese writer and physician

Hazrat Inayat Khan:

The sage said, “The best thing is not to hate anyone, only to love. That is the only way out of it. As soon as you have forgiven those whom you hate, you have gotten rid of them. Then you have no reason to hate them; you just forget.

Spiritual Dimensions of Psychology

Helen Keller:

Have you ever been at sea in a dense fog, when it seemed as if a tangible white darkness shut you in and the great ship, tense and anxious, groped her way toward the shore with plummet and sounding-line, and you waited with beating heart for something to happen? I was like that ship before my education began, only I was without compass or sounding line, and no way of knowing how near the harbor was. “Light! Give me light!” was the wordless cry of my soul, and the light of love shone on me in that very hour.

Henri Nouwen:

Your body needs to be held and to hold, to be touched and to touch. None of these needs is to be despised, denied, or repressed. But you have to keep searching for your body’s deeper need, the need for genuine love. Every time you are able to go beyond the body’s superficial desires for love, you are bringing your body home and moving toward integration and unity.

Henry David Thoreau:

Love must be as much a light as it is a flame.

Henry David Thoreau:

There is no remedy for love but to love more.

Henry Wadsworth Longfellow:

If I am not worth the wooing, I am surely not worth the winning.

Herman Hesse:

If I know what love is, it is because of you.

Hermann Hesse:

You know quite well, deep within you, that there is only a single magic, a single power, a single salvation…and that is called loving. Well, then, love your suffering. Do not resist it, do not flee from it. It is your aversion that hurts, nothing else.

Hobbes (of Calvin and …):

I think we dream so we don’t have to be apart so long. If we’re in each others dreams, we can be together all the time.


Tell me whom you love and I will tell you who you are.

Ingrid Bergman:

A kiss is a lovely trick designed by nature to stop speech when words become superfluous.

Isha McKenzie-Mavinga:

On reflection, one of the things I needed to learn was to allow myself to be loved.

James Baldwin:

The face of a lover is an unknown, precisely because it is invested with so much of oneself. It is a mystery, containing, like all mysteries, the possibility of torment.

Another Country, 1962

James D. Bryden:

Love does not die easily. It is a living thing. It thrives in the face of all of life’s hazards, save one — neglect.

James Thurber and E.B. White:

Love is the strange bewilderment which overtakes one person on account of another person.

Jane Austen:

Friendship is the finest balm for the pangs of despised love.

Jane Austen:

One does not love a place the less for having suffered in it unless it has all been suffering, nothing but suffering.

Jean Baptiste Henry Lacordaire:

We are the leaves of one branch, the drops of one sea, the flowers of one garden.

Jeanne Moreau:

Age does not protect you from love, but love to some extent protects you from age.

Jessamyn West:

A religious awakening which does not awaken the sleeper to love has roused him in vain.

The Quaker Reader, 1962

Jimi Hendrix:

When the power of love overcomes the love of power the world will know peace.

Joan Vinge:

Indifference is the strongest force in the universe. It makes everything it touches meaningless. Love and hate don’t stand a chance against it.

The Snow Queen

John Lennon:

Love is a promise, love is a souvenir, once given never forgotten, never let it disappear.

Jonathan Swift:

We have just enough religion to make us hate, but not enough to make us love one another.

Karl Menninger:

Love cures people — both the ones who give it and the ones who receive it.

W.H. Murray

Katharine Hepburn:

Sometimes I wonder if men and women really suit each other. Perhaps they should live next door and just visit now and then.

Lily Tomlin:

If love is the answer, could you rephrase the question?

Lisa Hoffman:

Love is like pi – natural, irrational, and very important.

M. Scott Peck:

Although the act of nurturing another’s spiritual growth has the effect of nurturing one’s own, a major characteristic of genuine love is that the distinction between oneself and the other is always maintained and preserved.

Madeleine de Scudery:

Love makes mutes of those who habitually speak most fluently.

Marcel Proust:

In reality, in love there is a permanent suffering which joy neutralizes, renders virtual, delays, but which can at any moment become what it would have become long earlier if one had not obtained what one wanted, atrocious.

Margaret Anderson:

In real love you want the other person’s good. In romantic love you want the other person.

Margaret Guenther:

[W]e all need friends with whom we can speak of our deepest concerns, and who do not fear to speak the truth in love to us.

Mark Twain:

Love seems the swiftest, but it is the slowest of all growths. No man or woman really knows what perfect love is until they have been married a quarter of a century.

Mark Twain:

Love seems the swiftest, but it is the slowest of all growths. No man or woman really knows what perfect love is until they have been married a quarter of a century.

Mark Twain:

After all these years, I see that I was mistaken about Eve in the beginning; it is better to live outside the Garden with her than inside it without her.

Adam, in Adam’s Diary

Martin Luther King, Jr.:

Love is the only force capable of transforming an enemy into friend.

Martin Luther King, jr.:

I believe that unarmed truth and unconditional love will have the final word in reality. This is why right, temporarily defeated, is stronger than evil triumphant.

Mary Oliver:

To live in this world you must be able to do three things: to love what is mortal; to hold it against your bones knowing your own life depends on it; and, when the time comes to let it go, to let it go. Blackwater Woods

Mary Parrish:

Love vanquishes time. To lovers, a moment can be eternity, eternity can be the tick of a clock.

Mary S. Calderone:

I truly feel that there are as many ways of loving as there are people in the world and as there are days in the life of those people.

Matthew Arnold:

Is it so small a thing
To have enjoy’d the sun,
To have lived light in the spring,
To have loved, to have thought, to have done…

Mitsugi Saotome:

If you were all alone in the universe with no one to talk to, no one with which to share the beauty of the stars, to laugh with, to touch, what would be your purpose in life? It is other life, it is love, which gives your life meaning. This is harmony. We must discover the joy of each other, the joy of challenge, the joy of growth.

Mohandas K. Gandhi:

Hatred ever kills, love never dies. Such is the vast difference between the two. What is obtained by love is retained for all time. What is obtained by hatred proves a burden in reality for it increases hatred.

Mohandas K. Gandhi:

Where there is love there is life.

Molly Haskell:

But one of the attributes of love, like art, is to bring harmony and order out of chaos, to introduce meaning and affect where before there was none, to give rhythmic variations, highs and lows to a landscape that was previously flat.

Mother Teresa:

The hunger for love is much more difficult to remove than the hunger for bread.

Mother Teresa:

Let us not be satisfied with just giving money. Money is not enough, money can be got, but they need your hearts to love them. So, spread your love everywhere you go.
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Nathaniel Hawthorne:

It is to the credit of human nature, that, except where its selfishness is brought into play, it loves more readily than it hates. Hatred, by a gradual and quiet process, will even be transformed to love, unless the change be impeded by a continually new irritation of the original feeling of hostility.

from The Scarlet Letter

Norman Lindsay:

The best love affairs are those we never had.

Oscar Hammerstein, II:

Do you love me because I’m beautiful,
or am I am beautiful because you love me?

Oscar Wilde:

Each time that one loves is the only time one has ever loved. Difference of object does not alter singleness of passion. It merely intensifies it. We can have but one great experience at best, and the secret of life is to reproduce that experience as often as possible.

The Picture of Dorian Gray

Paul Tillich:

The first duty of love is to listen.

Pearl Bailey:

What the world really needs is more love and less paperwork.

Pearl S. Buck:

A good marriage is one which allows for change and growth in the individuals and in the way they express their love.

Pearl S. Buck:

The person who tries to live alone will not succeed as a human being. His heart withers if it does not answer another heart. His mind shrinks away if he hears only the echoes of his own thoughts and finds no other inspiration.

Pearl S. Buck:

I love people. I love my family, my children . . . but inside myself is a place where I live all alone and that’s where you renew your springs that never dry up.

Rainer Maria Rilke:

For one human being to love another: that is perhaps the most difficult of our tasks; the ultimate, the last test and proof, the work for which all other work is but preparation.

Ralph Waldo Emerson:

Religion is to do right. It is to love, it is to serve, it is to think, it is to be humble.

Reinhold Niebuhr:

Nothing worth doing is completed in our lifetime,
Therefore, we are saved by hope.
Nothing true or beautiful or good makes complete sense in any immediate context of history;
Therefore, we are saved by faith.
Nothing we do, however virtuous, can be accomplished alone.
Therefore, we are saved by love.
No virtuous act is quite a virtuous from the standpoint of our friend or foe as from our own;
Therefore, we are saved by the final form of love which is forgiveness.

Robert Frost:

Earth’s the right place for love. I don’t know where it’s likely to go better.


Robert Fulghum:

I believe that imagination is stronger than knowledge — myth is more potent than history — dreams are more powerful than facts — hope always triumphs over experience — laughter is the cure for grief — love is stronger than death.

Robert G. Ingersoll:

Love is the only bow on life’s dark cloud.
It is the Morning and the Evening Star.
It shines upon the cradle of the babe,
and sheds its radiance upon the quiet tomb.
It is the mother of Art,
inspirer of poet, patriot, and philosopher.
It is the air and light of every heart, builder of every home,
kindler of every fire on every hearth.
It was the first to dream of immortality.
It fills the world with melody,
for Music is the voice of Love.
Love is the magician, the enchanter,
that changes worthless things to joy,
and makes right royal kings and queens of common clay.
It is the perfume of the wondrous flower — the heart
and without that sacred passion, that divine swoon,
we are less than beasts;
but with it, earth is heaven
and we are gods.

Robert Heinlein:

Love is a condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own.

Roger de Bussy-Rabutin:

Absence is to love as wind is to fire; it extinguishes the small and kindles the great.

Rose Walker:

Have you even been in love? Horrible, isn’t it? It makes you so vulnerable. It opens your chest and it opens your heart and it means someone can get inside you and mess you up. You build up all these defenses. You build up this whole armor, for years, so nothing can hurt you, then one stupid person, no different from any other stupid person, wanders into your stupid life…

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Roy Croft:

I love you
Not only for what you are
But for what I am
When I am with you

Love (first stanza)


Let the lover be disgraceful, crazy, absent-minded.
Someone sober will worry about events going badly.
Let the lover be.


Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.


Come out of the circle of time
And into the circle of love.

Saint Francis de Sales:

You learn to speak by speaking, to study by studying, to run by running, to work by working; and just so, you learn to love by loving. All those who think to learn in any other way deceive themselves.

Samuel Butler:

Perhaps; but is it not Tennyson who has said: “‘Tis better to have loved and lost, than never to have lost at all”? in The Way of All Flesh

Simone Weil:

The love of our neighbor in all its fullness simply means being able to say, “What are you going through?”

Sir Arthur Pinero:

Those who love deeply never grow old; they may die of old age, but they die young.

Song of Solomon:

This is my beloved and this is my friend.

Spanish proverb:

Where there is love, there is pain.

St. Augustine:

Better to have loved and lost, than to have never loved at all.

Søren Kierkegaard:

Love does not alter the beloved, it alters itself.

Thomas Merton:

It is in deep solitude that I find the gentleness with which I can truly love my brothers. The more solitary I am the more affection I have for them…. Solitude and silence teach me to love my brothers for what they are, not for what they say.

Tom Robbins:

The bottom line is that (a) people are never perfect, but love can be, (b) that is the one and only way that the mediocre and vile can be transformed, and (c) doing that makes it that. We waste time looking for the perfect lover, instead of creating the perfect love.

Still Life With Woodpecker

Truman Capote:

The true beloveds of this world are in their lover’s eyes lilacs opening, ship lights, school bells, a landscape, remembered conversations, friends, a child’s Sunday, lost voices, one’s favorite suit, autumn and all seasons, memory, yes, it being the earth and water of existence, memory.

Other Voices, Other Rooms, 1948

~ Unknown ~


Don’t find love, let love find you. That’s why it’s
called falling in love, because you don’t force
yourself to fall, you just fall.

Lucky is the man who is the first love of a woman,
but luckier is the woman who is the last love of a man.

It takes a minute to have a crush on someone,
an hour to like someone, and an day to love someone…
but it takes a lifetime to forget someone.

It breaks your heart to see the one you love is happy
with someone else, but it’s more painful to know that
the one you love is unhappy with you.

If love is the answer,
can you please repeat the question?

Faith makes all things possible.
Love makes them easy.

I believe that to truly Love, is the ultimate
expression of the will to live. A heart that
truly loves is forever young.

Love makes life so confusing, but without love
would you really want to live?

Do you love me because I am beautiful
or am I beautiful because I am loved?

Love me now, love me never,
but if you love me, love me forever.

Three things of life that are most valuable –
Love, self-confidence & friends.

To the world you may be just one person,
but to one person you may be the world.

Love is like heaven, but it can hurt like hell.

Who do you turn to when the only person
in the world that can stop you from crying,
is exactly the one making you cry?

He taught me how to love,
but not how to stop.

Of all forms of caution, caution in love is the most fatal.

We come to love not by finding a perfect person,
but by learning to see an imperfect person perfectly.

Many a young lady does not realize just how strong
her love for a young man is until he fails to pass
the approval test with her parents.


Love is blind, but friendship closes its eyes.

Ursula K. LeGuin:

Love doesn’t just sit there like a stone; it has to be made, like bread, remade all the time, made new.
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Ursula LeGuin:

Love doesn’t sit there like a stone. It has to made like bread; remade all the time, made new.

Victor Frankl:

A man who becomes conscious of the responsibility he bears toward a human being who affectionately waits for him, or to an unfinished work, will never be able to throw away his life. He knows the “why” for his existence, and will be able to bear almost any “how.”

Victor Hugo:

Life is the flower for which love is the honey.

W.H. Murray:

…the more the soul knows, the more she loves, and loving much, she tastes much.

from the journal of his Himalayan expedition

Washington Irving:

Love is never lost. If not reciprocated, it will flow back and soften and purify the heart.

Willa Cather:

Where there is great love, there are always miracles.

Willa Cather:

Old men are like that, you know. It makes them feel important to think they are in love with somebody.

William E. Gladstone :

We look forward to the time when the Power of Love will replace the Love of Power. Then will our world know the blessings of peace.

William Shakespeare:

Self-love, my liege, is not so vile a sin, as self-neglecting.

William Shakespeare:

Love all, trust a few.

William Shakespeare:

My bounty is as boundless as the sea,
My love as deep; the more I give to thee,
The more I have, for both are infinite.

“Romeo and Juliet”

William Sloane Coffin:

The world is too dangerous for anything but truth and too small for anything but love.

William Wordsworth:

The little unremembered acts of kindness and love are the best parts of a person’s life.
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Zora Neale Hurston:

Love, I find, is like singing. Everybody can do enough to satisfy themselves, though it may not impress the neighbors as being very much.

The Obama Ten

President Obama has taken on Parenting big time. So much so that a special session on Meet the Press has been created on challenges and leadership in the African American Community, and the first session was on Parenting.

Muriella’s Corner has characterized President Obama’s suggestions during a discussion in February in the presidential campaign when he discussed Parenting.

Here they are

THE OBAMA TEN on Parenting:

President Obama gives some tips for Parents and Parenting when YOUR child comes home from school:

1. Turn off radio/TV/Video games

2. Get some books/reading material in the home – parents must read; children must read

3. Buy a desk or clear a space on the kitchen table for the child to do homework

4. Help them do homework

5. If necessary call the teacher if you cannot help

6. Get them to bed at an appropriate time, after they have had dinner

7. Keep them off the streets when they do not have to be there

8. Get them breakfast before they leave for school or for them to have at school

9. When you are told that they have misbehaved – do not cuss out the teacher


Read more on Muriella’s Corner For Parents and also see Bill Cosby’s Video on Meet the Press, 11 January.

Cell phones and cancer

Do cell phones cause brain cancer?

Jury still out on this question. So far, studies show no relationship after about 10 years of use – see Danish study (conducted by Johansen et al.) linking data on all of the 420,095 cell phone users in Denmark between 1982 and 1995 to the Danish Cancer Registry.

Muriella’s Corner has been tracking this issue for a while now see below

Cell phones and sperm counts

Our cells and cell phones

Is there a link?



On the Larry King show, 27 May 2008 this issue came up again. The discussion centred on seeking more info on the relationship between cell phones and brain cancer. Mrs D. Cochran, wife of the late Johnny Cochran, Esq. and Dr Keith Black, Neurosurgeon and Mr Cochran’s medical doctor, led the discussion as to whether Mr Cochran’s death could be attributed to heavy use of cell phones which might have led to brain cancer. Read info here

Other neurosurgeons joined in the discussion, notably Dr Sanjay Gupta and Dr Vini Khurana, the latter being the only one among them who tenaciously held the view that he believed that there was a link and who pointed to recent data coming in from the Interphone Study Group established through the World Health Organizaton (WHO)

INTERPHONE Study Results update – 7 February 2008
The INTERPHONE Study is a series of multinational case–control studies set-up to determine
whether mobile telephone use increases the risk of cancer and, specifically, whether the radiofrequency radiation (non-ionizing) emitted by mobile telephones is carcinogenic, is nearing completion.

Details of the study protocol and procedures have been published for acoustic neurinoma, glioma, meningioma and tumours of the parotid gland. The studies used a common core protocol and were carried out in Australia, Canada, Denmark, Finland, France, Germany, Israel, Italy, Japan, New Zealand, Norway, Sweden and the UK. Read more here

What should be noted from the King discussion are the following:

  • Cell phone users should be aware that there are procedures to follow and should read the instructions coming with the phone (distance recommended between phone and ear, use of case, care in placing phone near body without being in a case…
  • More use should be made of ear devices – headset, earpiece, speaker on phone, blue tooth even though the latter might be a potential issue as it is plugged into the ear and might emit low-dose radiation
  • Cell phone only users should reconsider returning to having landlines, as the tendency to eliminate landlines and increase cell phone use as the only communication tool should be revisited, given that landlines might provide some respite to users as regards exposure to non-ionizing radiation
  • Reduce/eliminate cell phone use among young children as their developing brain might be more susceptible to cancer causing radiation given that brain tumour/cancer is now being identified as the number one killer in young children

What also came out of the discussion is that we should not believe that brain cancers might be attributable to cell phone use only. As was pointed out, farmers might be affected due to heavy diesel exposure, air pollution is being identified strongly with an increase in brain tumors.

Cell phone technology is also evolving thus leading to reduction in the levels of non-ionizing radiation. However, given the popularity of cell phones, there has been dramatic increase in usage around the world.

In 2004, there were over 1.7 billion cell phones in use worldwide (Source – CIA /facts and figures). That figure has grown exponentially by now. Of these phones, more than 60 percent are in developing countries. For example, if you examine the explosive growth in one region, Africa – in 2000 there were about 500,000 phones including land lines; today there are over 30 million with many of them wireless cell phones.

Evolution of utilization of the cell phone

This developing country market might not be cognizant of the health discussions going on in the developed world, and as such they might just become victims of any long-term health consequences, as for them, the cell phone is not only a communication tool but could be their livelihood as well.

Creativity has surrounded cell phone usage and the demand has affected supply. Cell phones are used in economic dealings, for communication and connection with loved ones and friend. Cell phones open up a sea of possibilities for the delivery of information, from sources not yet thought of and thus not not yet available; they are specifically establishing a sense of empowerment among people living in developing countries, by assisting them to leap frog into the internet without having a computer by using the cell phone for business, communicating, and texting/SMS.

For example, Grameen Bank, through Grameen Telecom whose goal is to provide telecommunication services to the 100 million rural inhabitants in the 68,000 villages in Bangladesh, provides cell phones mostly to women who use them as a means of livelihood. In Africa, cell phones are used to spread messages about health and disease, as well as to connect women traders to users of their products and for telephone banking and leasing of phones to clients/customers in the street to make calls.

Muriella’s Corner hopes that the Interphone Study Group has developed or will develop a protocol to examine this evolution and heavy-duty utilization of the cell phone in developing countries.

Dr Oz and anti-oxidants

Dr Oz, aging and “auntie oxidants”

When having a lemon and using it is a good thing…

Apples demonstrate the purpose of antioxidants. Source – Oprah.com; Muriella’s Corner online newsletter

Your change to a newer, healthier life starts in your refrigerator. The first thing you need in there is plenty of foods rich in antioxidants.

But what are antioxidants? Why are they so good for anti-aging?

To explain, Dr. Oz compares apples to apples—one half of this apple was sprinkled with lemon juice and the other was not. While the lemony half remains new and crisp-looking, the untreated half becomes brown and shriveled because of exposure to oxygen, also called oxidation. “The same thing happens to our skin, to our heart, to our eyes,” Dr. Oz says. “All of our bodies need to have the antioxidants.”

As their name implies, antioxidants do to your body what the lemon juice does to an apple—help prevent the damage caused by oxygen exposure.

While lemons do have some anti-aging benefits—similar to onions—Dr. Oz says there are several foods that are much more potent. Read More Here on Oprah.com

There is a lot of discussion on antioxidants, those rascal free radicals, alkaliniity, ORAC (oxygen radical absorption capacity) etc., etc. David Wolfe (aka Mr Avocado) joins in throwing some light on these terms and issues and help us understand in more depth the importance of dealing with free radicals and of taking in antioxidants.

Read more about this in Muriella’s Corner

End Violence Against Women

End the violence against women and girls. That was the message from the United Nations Secretary-General Ban Ki-moon as the UN launched its major global campaign against violence on women on Monday.

The campaign sent men around the world a strong message to end the violence against women.

At least one third of the world’s females are victims of gender-based abuse at least once in their lifetime, Ban noted. He said he will create a global network of male role models in all walks of life who can influence men and boys to speak out against the problem.

Violence against women impedes economic and social growth, and thus the new campaign will run until 2015, the same target year as the internationally agreed aims known as the Millennium Development Goals (MDGs).

Read more in the UN News Centre’s release.

In the Yakkers’ corner www.unitednationsyak.com Muriella will be interviewing some of the organizers of the event, including one male who has turned his life around after having been an abuser.

The Yakkers’ corner speaks out on development and humanitarian issues as well as issues countries face in implementing the Millennium Development Goals.

Indonesia tackles climate change with millions of trees

79 million trees planted in 1 day

Guinness World Records might just have to go green and institute a new category and record holder simultaneously.

Well, where there’s a way, there’s a tree! and millions of them. Does better late than never apply? Only time will tell, however, we applaud this initiative and look forward to afforestation efforts of other countries. – Muriella’s Corner

JAKARTA, Indonesia: Indonesia, which is losing its forests faster than any other country, hopes to plant 79 million trees in a single day ahead of a major U.N. climate change meeting later this year, a forestry ministry spokesman said Friday.

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